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45 life lessons as written by a 90-year-old

When I began using email many years ago there were so many “forwards” being sent around. I still receive the occasional article in one of my email accounts. What I’m sharing with you today is one of those.

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio. Regina said, “To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.”

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short – enjoy it.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don’t worry, God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an  answer.  

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is  special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this  matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

What is your mantra? Do you have any to share that are not mentioned?

Thanks for reading, and … Creative Musings!  🙂

“The cut worm forgives the plow”

This morning I read a quote which was taken from one of the works of William Blake, an English poet and printmaker.

“The cut worm forgives the plow.”

I read that and thought … what a great analogy. (Please note: I am not calling you or us worms, so please bear with my rough analogy here.)

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If you are freaked out even seeing an image of a worm, sorry! Please read on, there are no more pictures.

It’s not that a worm has a mind to forgive anything or even think about anything. It simply does what a worm is made to do. But, in considering an earthworm, for example, which is what I immediately thought of and am most familiar with as having the misfortune of being cut by a plow *, this is a very interesting statement.

The cut worm forgives the plow.

An earthworm that gets cut in half still lives, but as two earthworms. Did you know that? It’s an amazing feat of nature. Each then regenerates the parts lost, then continues on with life. If you are really interested, there is a great article here that you can read later. If you are not interested, then please excuse my fascination of such things.

The cut worm forgives the plow.

  • Have you ever felt that life circumstances are cutting you in half?
  • Do you feel you just don’t know how you are going to handle the stress in your life?
  • Do you feel cut off from what used to be normal for you?
  • Has something happened that has changed your path and redirected you?

The cut worm forgives the plow.

Think about that a minute. What if things have to change – you have no say in it or your better choice is to go with the flow? Suppose what lies ahead is even better than what you have to leave?

We don’t know what is coming ‘down the pipe,’ so to speak. We don’t have the ability to foresee how things are going to be years or even days from now. But, what we do know is that we can survive if we simply keep taking each moment as it comes. Never mind the days or hours, or even minutes … take each breath, each moment, one at a time … and keep on keeping on.

The cut worm forgives the plow.

That plow in your life is making a difference. It is up to you what you do with that change. Are you going to bemoan what happened to affect change in your life, thereby not allowing yourself to move forward? (I am well aware that some things are tragic losses that seem insurmountable, but I can assure you there is life – however altered – waiting to be lived. I just hope you will remind me of that should the time come again in my life.)

We have a choice to make when faced with change – when the plow again passes through our well-ordered, predictable lives. (As much as we may think life is chaotic and scrambled, there is a certain routine we have developed, however varied it may seem.)

  1. Do we emotionally fall apart and refuse to move on, clinging to memories and what remains of the life we knew? Or,
  2. Do we take a brave breath and step forward into the unknown (which describes every day, anyway), being thankful for the growth that lies ahead for us?

I know it’s not easy to do the latter. Moving ahead when we are uncertain and wobbly can be frightening. But, have you ever watched a young child learning to walk? Usually the baby will eagerly try and try until gaining the strength and balance to move ahead on his/her own. Even with help at first, it’s exciting and rewarding to accomplish those steps. We can do it beyond babyhood, too, although in a different way – one day at a time, one step at a time.

What was, good or bad, is something that is part of the whole of who we have become and can be used in either a positive or negative way. If it was bad, we learn to not go there again, to not be that person anymore, to not continue to live life that way; if it was good, we take the best of it and let it contribute in our future in a positive way.

So, has the plow cut through who you know yourself to be? You can start again, renew yourself, continue on. There is always someone who has been there before you, who has made it, and from whom you can learn.

When I write things like this, I usually don’t know for whom it is intended – myself at some future date, or for someone else – which is the usual case. If this speaks to your heart, Bless you! Take courage and make that step. Look ahead with eagerness of what wonders lie ahead for you.

Have you an experience you’d like to share about here as encouragement? Are you in a situation now that is challenging you to let go and move on?

*Plow is another spelling for plough but they have the same meaning.

So do not worry or be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will have worries and anxieties of its own. Sufficient for each day is its own trouble. – Matthew 6:34 (Amplified version)

Thanks for reading, and … Creative Musings!  🙂

 

 

Do you get your memories out of the trash heap?

I am trying to come up with a topic to write about.   Sometimes it is there waiting for me, more often it has gone into hiding.  This is the latter.

What, oh what, shall I write about that will be worth sharing?   hmmm

When trying to think of something I sift through my day, my week, summer vacation … whatever is filed away in my memory bank that is not under too much thinking and filing and stashing. You know, what we do with our memories … put them on a shelf not too far back to bring out and enjoy later, or file them away for safe keeping for an indefinite length of time, or just toss them onto the heap of regrets and disappointments to dig through when there is more time to do so.  There should never be time to dig through the trash heap, unless to learn something, but never enough to wile it away there.

Do you happen to remember a children’s TV program called Fraggle Rock? (It’s still in reruns in some places.)  There was the wise Marjory trash heap that would receive the occasional visitor seeking advice.   Notice I said occasional.   For good reason.  Don’t go there.   Mostly the trash heap consists of smelly yucky garbage, the mental trash heap being one of embarrassing moments, wrong thoughts, mistakes, regrets, failures, bad stuff … not a nice place to expend one’s brain power.

So, why did I bring that up?  Because too often we tend to waste time thinking back over things that cannot be changed, cannot be fixed, cannot be forgotten if we keep digging them out to review again and again.  Best to leave them alone to compost into a life lesson.

Our experiences have a way of changing us, affecting how we think or ‘see’ things, bringing us to new understanding, and often it is by the fact of their just being part of our living.  Stored away in our memory, and left alone to decay into what comes next … they become a part of what makes us who we are.   If not stored away properly they can affect us negatively — through our constant rehashing of them, not allowing ourselves to heal from the memories,  instead taking them out for our private pity parties and our public displays of “you don’t know what my life is/was like.”  But if not allowing the stench to touch us, not going back and digging it up to agonize over again and again, instead dealing with it in good and healthy ways, we allow ourselves to heal and grow and mature in mind and emotions.

So, what am I writing about?  It seems I am saying … stay out of the trash heap, and compost instead.   🙂  Do not allow your past to hold you there, to hinder your walk and progress in life, or to prevent you from believing.  Move out of that place of powerlessness, that desert of despair, that tunnel of torment.   Walk out!   Look up and walk out.

The One who has a plan and a purpose for your life made you to be the creative person you are.   Use that gift to its fullest and crawl out of the garbage heap!   Aspire.  Believe.  Create.  Dream.  Explore.  Fly.  Grow.  Hope.  Inspire.  Jump in.  Keep going – and … LIVE your Life!

What has helped you to keep going, not allowing Marjory the trash heap’s stink to permeate your life?

Thanks for reading, and … Creative Musings!  🙂