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Quote about comparison

I have been reading a lot more lately and got behind in having this post ready for this morning. It’s a quote I’ve had to think about.

Comparison, a great teacher once told me, is the cardinal sin of modern life. It traps us in a game that we can’t win. Once we define ourselves in terms of others, we lose the freedom to shape our own lives. – Jim Collins

Wow!  This is a good quote. I think it is true that when we compare ourselves to others we’re setting the standard of trying to be like them – and feeling ‘less’ because we aren’t meeting that standard. Their successes and accomplishments become our guide. That limits us!

Why do we think that others are better, smarter, cuter, wiser, or … anything-er? WHY?

Maybe because we don’t trust ourselves, we don’t believe the abilities God has placed within us is enough, or good enough.

I have to stop and think about that myself. As a shy person I have to always be pushing myself out there. It can be quite daunting and exhausting. I’m a person who, after being around a lot of people – or even a few people for a long period of time (or what seems a long time) – needs to find a quiet, restful place to replenish my energy. Also, being a caregiver is very draining that way, perhaps more so for someone who is uncomfortable around people all the time. As a writer, I draw back and don’t even allow myself to shine – afraid it won’t be good enough anyway. By what standards, though? (guilty!)

So, my question for you today is … Have you ever found comparison has held you back? If not, has anything? Do you have advice for anyone who struggles with moving forward?

Thanks for reading, and … Creative Musings!  🙂

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Book Review: The Shy Writer – by C. Hope Clark

The Shy WriterBook: The Shy Writer (second edition)
An Introvert’s Guide to Writing Success
Author: C. Hope Clark
Publisher: Booklocker.com, Inc
Date: 2nd edition 2007; 1st printing September 22, 2004
Genre: writers’ self-help
Pages: 174
Price:  $14.95$16.75
My rating: A very good help to shy writers – or any writer!

 

This is one of those purchases as a writer I am very glad I made. The title immediately appealed to me, and I discovered that – in The Shy Writer: An Introvert’s Guide to Writing Success – author Hope Clark, addresses so many things that I can relate to and that describe me – I admit.

There are fourteen chapters, each divided into sections. The chapter titles are:

  1. Understanding Shyness
  2. Defining the Shyness
  3. Reaching Out Reaches In
  4. Controlling the Fear
  5. One-On-One
  6. The Big Bad Throngs
  7. Honing the Skills and Confidence
  8. Shy But Sharp
  9. Gimmick the Name of the Game
  10. The Press and Media
  11. World Wide Web Power
  12. Other People Power
  13. Controversy – When Shy Doesn’t Work
  14. Safe Havens and Natural Feelings

In all these chapters I don’t think Hope Clark missed a thing. Being a shy writer herself, Hope understands it all. She was able to cover all areas of one’s inner struggle with what comes after the writing – the marketing and publicity in any form, including how to cope with the often dreaded book signings. She addresses many scenarios and gives examples pertaining to her own life or of other writers she has met.

Author Hope Clark gives such sound advice and includes links to many sites where helpful information can be found. For the shy writer this book is comforting and reassuring, well worth having.

You can find The Shy Writer on my BUY THE BOOK! page.

Thanks for reading, and … Creative Musings!  🙂